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Afraid, guilty and tired!

Steve Brown January 15th, 2009

Do you know my favorite thing to do…right after jumping off buildings and getting a root canal?

It's grading papers.

Do you know what I'm doing right now?
Well, I'm writing to you, of course, but what I was doing before writing to you and what I'll do right after writing to you is…

…grading papers.

I remember once at Disney when I was with our grandchildren at one of those "character" lunches. Our daughter, our son-in-law and my wife deserted me and the granddaughters decided it was time to party. They had food fights, ran around the restaurant chasing after Mickey Mouse and ate cupcakes, getting icing on the walls, their clothes and me.

That was when the waitress came over to take our drink order. I ordered lemonade for the girls and an iced tea for me.

"Sir," the waitress said, smiling. "I don't want to be presumptuous, but are you sure you don't want something stronger? I think you could handle this better drunk."

That's how I feel about grading papers…and a variety of other things.

As you know, I don't drink "adult beverages," but that doesn't mean I don't see the attractiveness of "transcendence in a bottle." I might not be a better grandfather, a better preacher or a better professor…but then, I wouldn't care so much. And there is something to be said about not caring.

Do you know the story of the woman who complained about the anxiety of being a new mother and went to her physician for help? He prescribed some anti-anxiety pills and told her to take one every morning.

She decided that if one of the pills was good, two or three would be even better.

The next time she saw her doctor, he asked the woman how she was doing and how the new baby was.

She replied with a puzzled expression: "What baby?"

What student? What paper? What sermon? What book? What broadcast? What…

I know, I know. I shouldn't have written that, but even preachers sometimes fantasize about being out from under all the responsibility…and just running away with a bottle or a pill.

I've never run away from you.

I know, but you're God. You're different.

Why do you care? Why does any of this make a difference to you?

Because I'm weird?

No, because your caring and your loving is from me. That's why. And you can't get away from me because I cared about you and loved you before I taught you to care and love anybody else.

That's when I started thinking about the stack of papers on my desk that need grading.

I remembered Psalm 103: "For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us. As a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him. For he knows our frame; he remembers that we are dust" (vs. 11-14).

I also remembered Matthew's description of Jesus, quoting from Isaiah, as he wrote about us and about Jesus in Matthew 12:20: "…a bruised reed [that's us] he [that's Jesus] will not break, and a smoldering wick [us again] he [that's Jesus] will not quench…" Then Matthew illustrates Isaiah's prophecy throughout his biography giving examples (e.g. 9:36, 14:14, 15:32, 20:34) of Jesus being "moved with compassion" toward the weak, the needy and the sinful.

It really does put a different light on that stack of papers.

I know my students. They aren't just names…they are sons and daughters, fathers and mothers, and husbands and wives who are sometimes so needy even though that neediness isn't always reflected in the papers.

The students who wrote the stack of papers on my desk are afraid. They're afraid that they may not make it, that they will fail, that they've made a mistake in this God stuff and sometimes they even wonder if, when they get in the battle, they will be skilled enough to stand. They are afraid…really afraid.

Me too!

He knows our frame…He remembers…A bruised reed he will not break…A smoldering wick he will not quench…He was moved with compassion.

The students who wrote the stack of papers on my desk are not only afraid, they're guilty. Nothing will make you feel guiltier than to be a theological student or a preacher and have people think that you are good, pure and obedient when you know you're not. Those students are beginning to discover that their motives aren't altogether that pure and that their call is filled with ego, selfishness and sin.

Me too!

He knows our frame…He remembers…A bruised reed he will not break…A smoldering wick he will not quench…He was moved with compassion.

The students who wrote the stack of papers on my desk are not only afraid and guilty, they're just plain tired. The seminary where I teach is very rigorous academically. Frankly, I don't know how the students read all they are supposed to read and do all they are supposed to do. Often they neglect their own needs, staying up to the wee hours of the morning, skipping meals and working harder than they ought to work. Sometimes, they look so tired and so burned out.

Me too!

He knows our frame…He remembers…A bruised reed he will not break…A smoldering wick he will not quench…He was moved with compassion.

So, when I go back to those papers, I'm going to try and remember that the students who wrote them are afraid, guilty and tired. I'm going to remember that about me too. And I'm going to give to them what God has given to me…more compassion and gentleness than professors are usually thought to give.

And just so you know, I wasn't just talking about students, professors and grades here. Maybe you guessed that I was talking about you too. You're just as afraid, guilty and tired as we are.

What if God were different than what you've been told? What if God were kind, gentle and compassionate toward you? What if grace always ran downhill?

How different would your life be?

Enough.

I've got to get back to these papers, but do ask yourself how you would live if you knew that God cared more about you than he did about your grade?

He does, you know.

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9 Responses to “Afraid, guilty and tired!”

Mike Maroon January 16th, 2009

Steve,
If I thought for one minute our Father cared more about the grade than he did me, I couldn't survive. Paul claimed to be the worst sinner. I'm in the top 5. I don't know how people who believe you are Christian or not based on the last good or bad thing you did can even sleep nights. The ONLY reason I can sleep at night is because I know God cares more about me than my grade. Thanks for reminding me though. I needed to hear it.

klab January 16th, 2009

and again I am reminded why I have listened to you since just before 1990 lol GOD just seems to speak through you in my darkest moments. when my life seems to be a black hole sucking in everything, There HE is shining hope and light throu you. Thank you for being open to be used.

Laurie January 30th, 2009

"What if God were different than what you've been told? What if God were kind, gentle and compassionate toward you? What if grace always ran downhill?

How different would your life be?"

My pastor has begun listening to your RTS lectures. My husband downloaded them for me and I spent over 6 hours listening to them – afraid to stop listening. Hearing words like those above for the first time I can remember since becoming a Christian 4 years ago at the age of 40 – well – I've cried more in the last two days than I have in years. I'm crying now, and I'll tell you why: this is the best news I've ever heard, and I'm terrified it's not true. I'm afraid if I tell any of the Christians I know they'll tell me it's not so… they'll tell me you're an anti-nomian…and that it's not scriptural and snatch all that hope away from me. How different would my life be? I hope desperately that I get to find out.

Can I really believe that if I never get any more sanctified than I am now that I still belong to Him ? The Scriptures use such tough language in so many places that I find it nearly impossible to believe God had any tender feelings toward me at all, or rather that He has them toward me as long as I'm behaving well.

Well, I don't really expect you to answer all this here. My husband's off driving he truck and listening to your lectures today. When he gets home I'll be able to listen to some more. I've never in my life wanted so desperately for something to be true. I find it hopefull that my pastor has been listening to these teachings and is becoming aware of how legalistic things are getting at our church.

Steve Brown January 31st, 2009

Laurie,

God really is as kind, gentle, merciful and gracious as I've been saying. You don't have to hope that truth is true. Truth is true because… well, it's just true.

I know how you feel. When I first started discovering what the Bible really teaches I thought, "This can't be this good." The deeper I went the better it got and now I spend most of my time telling people what I've discovered. I would be really nervous if I were the only one… but it started with Jesus and has been central to the church for two thousand years. It's just that our neurotic default position (and I'm worse than most) is condemnation, guilt and fear.

Let me suggest that you not lift those "harsh" verses out of the Bible and out of context. Learn to see the "whole counsel of God" and see God's total plan. The "bad news" is there so we can hear the good news. Theology is often boring, but it allows us to see the big picture.

The central doctrines of the Reformation are so clear. Christ really did take our sin and sins to the cross… really… and all we have to do is run to him. But, more than that, God really did (Paul teaches clearly) "impute" (put in our account) all the obedience, purity and righteousness of Christ to us. That's so good I can hardly stand it.

Thousands of Christians (and especially pastors and leaders) all over the country are discovering the truth of God's grace and with you, are saying, "Why didn't I see this before."

I'll tell you why. Because we are weird. Religion can do that to you. And secondly, because Satan has done a number on us because he knows that if we "get it"… he's done for.

So, dear friend, believe it. Then live you life in its truth.

Then go out and have a party…

… and invite your pastor.

Laurie February 1st, 2009

Steve,

Thanks for your response. I'm still listening, crying, and hoping, trying to get it to sink in, trying to get the courage to step out of the open prison door. I'm not going to study anything but the love of God until I believe it – I already believe all the other stuff so I don't think it will suffer being set aside for a while.

Erik February 2nd, 2009

Laurie,

If you haven't found the Scandalous Freedom podcast yet, may I suggest you check out the free archive? There are 27 audio messages that feature what I think is classic Steve on Biblical grace and freedom. Start with "Free Means Free" and go down the list. Let me know what you think.

Laurie February 4th, 2009

Wow, thanks Erik!
My husband put them on the iPod for me. I'll let you know how it goes. I've got a few more of the RTS lectures to finish and I'll go straight to these next.

Laurie February 16th, 2009

Erik,
I've finished listening to the Scandalous Freedom podcasts and have found them very helpful and encouraging – though I've got to say, I still feel like I've had the rug pulled out from under me. I haven't gotten my footing yet and am still struggling with this. Honestly, if it weren't for my husband, who consistently demonstrates this kind of love and grace for me, I don't think I'd be able to believe it at all. I also am having to re-think everything I do, and why I do it. So much of my Christian walk (without my realizing it) has been spent currying God's favor so that I can feel like I'm in good standing. I've also been as judgemental of others as I've been of myself. (Old sins die hard.) I've stepped back for a little while from most church activities, and teaching too, as I try to process all this. I hope you all will include me in your prayers. This has been a very difficult time for me.

John Meyer August 18th, 2009

Steve, to make a very long-sad story short, because of pride, it took God 20 years of silence to get me to ask the following questions, before He would even speak to me. His answer saved me.

Back slid-en, troubled, and realizing that I was lost in every sense of the word and, after a few weeks of trying to return to God, I began to beg;

Me: "Lord I know you love me, but I want to know why? "

God: silence.

Me: Lord, your word says you love me… why?

God: silence

Me: Lord what is it about me you love?

God: "NOTHING!"

Me: Then why do you love me?

God: "Because that is what I am, that is what I do. What, John, can give to me that I don't already have? Can the earth warm the sun? My love is a one-way street, I give it, you receive it. I am insulted when you think that you can earn my love. It is a slap in my face for you to even try. When you wash a car, is it still dirty? If I have forgotten your sins, I don't remember them…

Many tears were shed that day, night, & week. I was free. The Gospel made sense.

Perhaps one day I'll write the whole story, if it will help someone.

Thanks.

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