A Million Miles to Live a Better Story
Susan Isaacs September 30th, 2009
Greetings from the road. I am traveling with author Donald Miller on his “Million Miles” tour. We’ve done ten shows in 12 days; it feels like we’ve traveled a million miles already. I couldn’t be happier.
Don is out promoting his new book, A Million Miles In A Thousand Years, and I’m the warm-up act. Opening for Don is like opening for U2. Don’s books have sold millions. Blue Like Jazz became a best seller for a reason: it hit a nerve amongst younger Christians who didn’t fit in with their parents’ yuppie American Christianity; and many of those same Yuppie American Christian parents who discovered that the Yuppie American Christian Dream was a load o’ crap.
I am not knocking honest, biblical Christianity; but rather the pretty, shiny Churchianity where all questions are answered, every conflict ends in an altar call, everyone votes Republican, and y’all live your Best Life Now.
Anyone out there for whom that did not happen? Anyone underwater with a bad mortgage? Out of work? Kids on drugs? Spouse depressed? You depressed? Remember that phrase, “God loves you and has a wonderful plan for your life?” Wondering what kind of alternate universe in which this life is called “wonderful?”
That’s what both Don and I are talking about on his "Million Miles" tour. The big story that God calls you to live actually involves conflict, trauma, and soul-searing character change. Call it the “The Feel-Good, Escapist Tour of 2009.”
Before you go running for your Prozac, just have a listen.
My book, Angry Conversations With God, begins when I hit forty and found myself loveless, jobless, and living over a garage. When a friend said my relationship with God was like a marriage, I decided to take God to marriage counseling. Of course the God that showed up for counseling was my twisted version of the real God. Over time God did change – into the real God. And man, the real God read me the riot act: if this was a marriage, I had married Him for his money – for what I could get out of him. Psyche! I had to learn to love God for better or worse; for richer or poorer, for fun and for free. I did not go quietly. But in the end, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. All those disappointments and heartbreaks became the tools God used to mature me into someone who could recognize and enjoy all the good he really had for me.
Don’s book goes a step further. When filmmaker Steve Taylor approached Don to make a movie out of Blue Like Jazz, Steve said Don’s real life was too boring. Don and Steve went to Robert McKee’s story structure seminar and learned the basics of storytelling. Don had an epiphany in that seminar: the same elements that make a good movie make a good life. A main character overcomes conflict to reach his goal. Further, the main character has to be someone we care about, and his goal has to be something big enough that we care, and something important enough that if he doesn’t accomplish his goal, people will die, lives will be ruined, hearts broken. We have to want this character to achieve that goal!
Personally, I would add that if the main character’s goal is a bad one, we pray he doesn’t get what he wants. Think of Humphrey Bogart in Casablanca. He wants to stay out of the war and punish Ingrid Bergman for breaking his heart. Soon he realizes he needs to help Ingrid and her husband escape Casablanca and rejoin the resistance movement. Thank God Bogart didn’t get what he wanted but rather what he needed.
Don’s book reflects on how editing his life for a movie called him to live a bigger story. He went on a bike trip to raise money to drill wells in Africa. He pursued a girl fully. His goals didn’t always end happily. But he led a big life, and became a bigger person for it. Don’s message: Live a big story. Live a beautiful story: a story that involves peril, conflict, and great stakes. A life that is worth living.
The first time I heard Don speak about this, a huge burden of guilt fell off me: if my life wasn’t easy at the moment, it wasn’t necessarily that I was screwing up; it was because life is hard and conflict is part of the story. And conflict is okay: whether it’s thrust upon you or you even cause it, God can take what you give him and work with that.
And you know? It was a feel-good moment; and not an escapist moment. It was a moment I was ennobled to step into the conflict and work through it to live a bigger story.
Every time I hear Don give this message on the tour, every time I see someone take his book home, I know they too will be challenged to live a better, more beautiful story than to simply own a Volvo or a beige condo somewhere.
We are traveling to another 60 cities all over the country. Come watch me do a segment of my solo show based Angry Conversations With God. Listen to Don talk about how Don dared to live a bigger story in A Million Miles In A Thousand Years. I bet you will leave energized and excited to live the bit story God has for you.
For more info about the tour, go to http://amillionmiles.com
Follow us on twitter: @donmilleris and @susanisaacs
Join Donald Miller on Steve Brown Etc. on October 16th.
Susan Isaacs is a writer, actor, and comedienne with TV and film credits including Planes Trains & Automobiles, Scrooged, Seinfeld, The Drew Carey Show, My Name Is Earl and more. She is an alumnus of The Groundlings Sunday Company and the author of Angry Conversations With God: A Snarky But Authentic Spiritual Memoir.
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