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A Million Miles to Live a Better Story

Susan Isaacs September 30th, 2009

Susan and Don (His close friends call him Don)Greetings from the road. I am traveling with author Donald Miller on his “Million Miles” tour. We’ve done ten shows in 12 days; it feels like we’ve traveled a million miles already. I couldn’t be happier.

Don is out promoting his new book, A Million Miles In A Thousand Years, and I’m the warm-up act. Opening for Don is like opening for U2. Don’s books have sold millions. Blue Like Jazz became a best seller for a reason: it hit a nerve amongst younger Christians who didn’t fit in with their parents’ yuppie American Christianity; and many of those same Yuppie American Christian parents who discovered that the Yuppie American Christian Dream was a load o’ crap.

I am not knocking honest, biblical Christianity; but rather the pretty, shiny Churchianity where all questions are answered, every conflict ends in an altar call, everyone votes Republican, and y’all live your Best Life Now.

Anyone out there for whom that did not happen? Anyone underwater with a bad mortgage? Out of work? Kids on drugs? Spouse depressed? You depressed? Remember that phrase, “God loves you and has a wonderful plan for your life?” Wondering what kind of alternate universe in which this life is called “wonderful?”

That’s what both Don and I are talking about on his "Million Miles" tour. The big story that God calls you to live actually involves conflict, trauma, and soul-searing character change. Call it the “The Feel-Good, Escapist Tour of 2009.”

Before you go running for your Prozac, just have a listen.

My book, Angry Conversations With God, begins when I hit forty and found myself loveless, jobless, and living over a garage. When a friend said my relationship with God was like a marriage, I decided to take God to marriage counseling. Of course the God that showed up for counseling was my twisted version of the real God. Over time God did change – into the real God. And man, the real God read me the riot act: if this was a marriage, I had married Him for his money – for what I could get out of him. Psyche! I had to learn to love God for better or worse; for richer or poorer, for fun and for free. I did not go quietly. But in the end, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. All those disappointments and heartbreaks became the tools God used to mature me into someone who could recognize and enjoy all the good he really had for me.

Don’s book goes a step further. When filmmaker Steve Taylor approached Don to make a movie out of Blue Like Jazz, Steve said Don’s real life was too boring. Don and Steve went to Robert McKee’s story structure seminar and learned the basics of storytelling. Don had an epiphany in that seminar: the same elements that make a good movie make a good life. A main character overcomes conflict to reach his goal. Further, the main character has to be someone we care about, and his goal has to be something big enough that we care, and something important enough that if he doesn’t accomplish his goal, people will die, lives will be ruined, hearts broken. We have to want this character to achieve that goal!

Personally, I would add that if the main character’s goal is a bad one, we pray he doesn’t get what he wants. Think of Humphrey Bogart in Casablanca. He wants to stay out of the war and punish Ingrid Bergman for breaking his heart. Soon he realizes he needs to help Ingrid and her husband escape Casablanca and rejoin the resistance movement. Thank God Bogart didn’t get what he wanted but rather what he needed.

Don’s book reflects on how editing his life for a movie called him to live a bigger story. He went on a bike trip to raise money to drill wells in Africa. He pursued a girl fully. His goals didn’t always end happily. But he led a big life, and became a bigger person for it. Don’s message: Live a big story. Live a beautiful story: a story that involves peril, conflict, and great stakes. A life that is worth living.

The first time I heard Don speak about this, a huge burden of guilt fell off me: if my life wasn’t easy at the moment, it wasn’t necessarily that I was screwing up; it was because life is hard and conflict is part of the story. And conflict is okay: whether it’s thrust upon you or you even cause it, God can take what you give him and work with that.

And you know? It was a feel-good moment; and not an escapist moment. It was a moment I was ennobled to step into the conflict and work through it to live a bigger story.

Every time I hear Don give this message on the tour, every time I see someone take his book home, I know they too will be challenged to live a better, more beautiful story than to simply own a Volvo or a beige condo somewhere.

We are traveling to another 60 cities all over the country. Come watch me do a segment of my solo show based Angry Conversations With God. Listen to Don talk about how Don dared to live a bigger story in A Million Miles In A Thousand Years. I bet you will leave energized and excited to live the bit story God has for you.

For more info about the tour, go to http://amillionmiles.com

Follow us on twitter: @donmilleris and @susanisaacs

Join Donald Miller on Steve Brown Etc. on October 16th.


Susan Isaacs is a writer, actor, and comedienne with TV and film credits including Planes Trains & Automobiles, Scrooged, Seinfeld, The Drew Carey Show, My Name Is Earl and more. She is an alumnus of The Groundlings Sunday Company and the author of Angry Conversations With God: A Snarky But Authentic Spiritual Memoir.

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3 Responses to “A Million Miles to Live a Better Story”

joshua potter October 1st, 2009

I read this article last night and got very agitated about the yuppie christian comments and how yuppie christian parents realized it was a load of crap. Then it proceeded to say that I am not knocking biblical christianity but, …..but rather the pretty, shiny Churchianity where all questions are answered, every conflict ends in an altar call, everyone votes Republican, and y’all live your Best Life Now. Those two shouldn't even be mentioned in the same breath. It's either christianity or it's not. Now, at that time before I got comments that Susan was talking about the prosperity gospel, which I don't know what part of that talks about voting republican, and where all questions are answered. I think there were some broad strokes which I commented about on my blog in response to two comments people left me. So going back and reading the rest of the article for the second part, I can agree with what Susan says, just didn't think the first part was necessary or even correct, but that's my opinion. The reason this is so frustrating to me is because this could have been a great thoughtful article without the jabs at yuppie christians and their parents as well as the biblical christianity compared to prosperity gospel which wasn't even a great analysis of that, so that is what I commented on. Some things are just better left unsaid. Maybe "there were some things I misunderstood that were being taught in the church or things that were being taught in the church that were mistaught rather than the way it was done. That is what I was referring to. We all do it. It's the whole going off on someone for what they did wrong, while we are doing something wrong in our approach as well. I am guilty. God bless

Susan October 1st, 2009

Joshua: I know what it's like to read something quickly and get upset, which prompted you to flame me on twitter. I get it. You're a pastor and you're sick of people trashing the church. I am totally with you. But I think you probably are accustomed to reading criticisms of the church and you read those comments in a literalist way; where I wrote that string for comedic effect. Maybe the Republican line was a bad choice: But that was me: I was that yuppie christian who thought everything was going to end happily and who voted republican and was waiting for my best life now. If you want to defend simplistic Christianity then go ahead and get mad. But I don't think that's really what's in your heart.

I would disagree with your statement, that "some things are better left unsaid." I think that it's only by speaking out we get to see where we are wrong and where others are right. And vice versa. I appreciate you taking the time to write back. And it's OK if you blocked me on twitter. I have nothing against you and I am glad you care so much about the church.

Greg Wilson October 4th, 2009

Very few things are best left unsaid, at least when it comes to evaluating the church. As a former pastor who came out of the Jesus Movement and has thus witnessed most of the varieties of church growth over the past 35 years or so, I obviously have a take on all of this. First, nobody has reached church nirvana yet, nobody has gotten it all right. There are manifestations in all the Christian traditions which bring something to the table, but most keep their piece of the puzzle spiritually copyrighted, thus bringing into question anyone who wants to take the enthusiasm of the Pentecostals into the same room as the bookish approach of the Reformed churches or even the more iconoclastic Orthodox. Not that nobody has tried, but no one has figured out how to get long-term traction from any movement which is hard to define. My experience has been that while we have all come a long way in attempting to do a better job of at least acknowledging the need for meeting the physical needs of those who hurt, there is still far to much use of fear and manipulation going on in our churches. Factor in we are dealing with a human institution which has been trying to self destruct for 2,000 years, and you still have a strange stew brewing as far as those who are either outside the fold or who have been wounded in some way by those of us in the fold are concerned. Whether we package it in a liturgical robe, sharkskin suit and silk necktie, or a uber-hip pair of jeans and t-shirt, the message is still being tossed out there. Some of it sticks and some of it does not, but a lot of that is really not up to us if it is delivered in a place of love and safety where people are not afraid to voice their concerns and questions, and are connected in some way beyond doing something for the church. Over the years I have interviewed the big boys in this, including Willow and Saddleback, and the leadership agreed that finding ways for this authentic connection remains elusive to any formula. Home groups wax and wane, occasionally finding some connection, but more often not. Other forms of ministry, segregated by sex, age, addiction, marital status, etc, all offer a long of front doors to churches that have vast resources, but early reports are not great, though granted it is a bit soon to make a final judgment. I find great hope in Bill Hybels' public declaration, which he boldly called repentance, that despite all their programs and vision casting, that Willow had failed to "teach their people to feed themselves," a courageous statement given Willow likely had done more to engage and educate their congregation than any other anywhere near its size. I suppose we all continue to wrestle with the Great Commission. Evangelicals by and large see it as "get people saved and let God do the rest." That approach manifests itself in Sunday services aimed mostly at producing "decisions to follow Christ" and/or baptisms. Not a bad goal, but it seems to leave a awful lot of folks who hear such a message and respond stranded in a new wilderness, one where they are not supposed to be children of God but have no clue what to do when the world around them does not exactly applaud or embrace their new worldview. Sadly many will pretty much blindly follow and believe any teacher/leader who says they are Christian and either never get past that stage or give up altogether. Across the spectrum I have witnessed varying forms of subtle manipulation which is tacitly teaching works salvation. All of us share the blame, from old Jesus freaks to brillcream prophets to priests to the cool preacher de jeur. It has to be either all grace or no grace. If it has a hook in it, it is bait not grace. Susan has experienced some of this Joshua, and as a church leader you don't have to buy into all of her conclusions but know they are authentic and that she is no where near alone in her views. This is already too long, so I will stop.

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